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May 29, 2013, 01:04:40 PM
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The key with ego is to accept it and love it.

No, really, I'm not bullshitting you.  :HA!:

Some ego is good. Without ego, we wouldn't be individuals and have personalities. Ego defines who we are. When we deal with strangers or go out in public, we choose how to present ourselves, and this manifests in our attitude, demeanor, the clothes we wear, the overall appearance we have ("booky guy, "scary tattoo guy", "biker", "nerd", "high school kid", "loud person", "soccer mom", etc). Ultimately, we are much more complex than we appear, but our ego and it's manifestation serve as a potential defense mechanism to protect us in unfamiliar situations. Of course, we are much more complex than any of those stereotypes, but only people who we open up to like family and friends know that.

In meditation, when we empty the mind, there is no ego. We see that the universal mind does not distinguish itself in forms, and is essentially one whole that is separated only by necessity. We see that our personal soul is a part of this, and is devoid of that ego. However, when we come out of meditation, we are still ourselves. As time goes on and you meditate more, you will be more closely rooted in this Wuwei, or void, and it will naturally manifest through you. When this happens, our negative egoistic traits become less pronounced and our positive ones naturally become stronger.

Meditation naturally cleanses the negative traits from us, and strengthens the positive traits. Only if you let it, however.

If you hold on to the ego, or even if you see the ego as being a completely negative thing, you will miss this aspect of meditation, and miss out on the transformation. Why? Because you aren't being accepting of yourself, and compassionate towards yourself.

When you realize ego is a means to an end, a necessary tool to survive socially, and a positive thing since it is what makes you you, then you accept it. When you accept it, you can love it, and love yourself. When you love yourself, you can let go of your ego (that is, the negative things about it).

"All the world's a stage, and all the men and women merely players" - Shakespeare

Ego is just an actor. We should not try and defeat ourselves and get rid of our ego- this is destructive. Instead, we should accept ourselves for who we are, negative and positive, and try to allow meditation and spirituality to minimize our negatives and strengthen our positives. This is called acceptance.

However, I know what you all mean about egotistical people. These are people who are usually selfish, stubborn, pigheaded, unwilling to reason, lack compassion, lack empathy, lack sympathy, are self motivated, and so on. These people usually hate themselves, and thus cannot see beyond themselves and realize what they do to others. They may be mentally ill- they could be sociopathic. The only thing you can do with people like this is try and understand and help them. You have to teach them compassionately that they are not always right, and that other people matter too. This is difficult and takes a lot of compassion, and must be handled delicately. A lot of the time, it is futile. Ultimately, sometimes it comes down to just accepting them for who they are and moving on, since you can only control yourself and your actions, and not theirs.

"What is a good man but a bad man's teacher? What is a bad man but a good man's job?" -Daodejing
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May 29, 2013, 02:36:28 PM
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May 29, 2013, 04:34:58 PM
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Thank you for the clarification on the ego, Kouji. I learned something and I'm grateful for it. I will apply the wisdom to my everyday life, and try and embrace the positive aspects of my ego and allow my meditation to vanquish the negative ones.
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May 29, 2013, 08:26:27 PM
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That is an excellent post, Kouji. Thank you. I just want to emphasize one point:

we choose how to present ourselves, and this manifests in our attitude, demeanor, the clothes we wear, the overall appearance we have ("booky guy, "scary tattoo guy", "biker", "nerd", "high school kid", "loud person", "soccer mom", etc).

Sometimes, there is a scary, tattooed, badass biker hidden under that mild mannered, introverted nerd.  :wink:

Who we choose to be is always up to us. There are some aspects of who we are that will always shine through, and some things that will persist, but ultimately we are responsible for who we are. This also means that appearances can be deceiving, but that isn't always a bad thing.

As I said to everyone before: open your heart, let go of your temper, and you just mind find a good friend in someone that you thought you disliked.



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May 30, 2013, 09:00:43 PM
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May 31, 2013, 09:46:48 PM
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June 04, 2013, 01:56:49 AM
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June 04, 2013, 08:52:45 AM
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Well, that explains why I did like you from the start. Well, in a manly kind of way. :P