Hey Sekhmet, welcome back. You seem to be dealing really well with a lot of things. Congrats on that
Regarding the topic at hand, did you have a specific question in mind, or just want as much information as possible regarding stopping the guy's influence on your friend?
I'm looking for ways of stopping his influence. My advice to her was 1) get angry at him, don't fall for his fake apology because he will just lose his temper again. 2) Cut the cords of attachment because he is messing with her energetically as well. 3) He's a telepath like I am, a bit more than just an empath. He is messing with her fundamental energy structure. I heard from a mutual friend that on New Year's she was acting like a junkie who needed her fix so this mutual friend let her ditch to go hang out with the douche bag.
My basic advice would be distraction. Get her involved in something else, which is hopefully healthy for her, to the point where she can ignore the boyfriend, or at least put him off for a while. So long as she can put him out of her mind for a while, she will eventually be able to break the associations with him. The second piece of advice would be to make sure she's aware of her infatuation with his smell; she might like it, but so long as she's consciously aware that it's manipulating her mind and feelings, then she should be able to fight the feelings it generates within her.
I'm writing a book on Bullies and Manipulators. I'm also writing my business plans. My fiction needs an editor real bad. So I suggested she edit my fiction. I have her as co-author for my non-fiction. I wrote up a contract. I'm way ahead of schedule actually, which is good. I love my medication very much for keeping me productive and stable.
As for the douche bag's energy field, she plans on distracting herself with friends. She did mention this older guy is losing his looks. Attractive men, I should note, go through misery. They get a lot of attention. I heard he flirted with waitresses who ignored him which is what qualifies as sexual harassment. I think I have told her what I can in phone messages about how to cope with the feelings. She gets sugar cravings on top of the douche bag cravings. I have managed to tell her to have cheese for the sugar cravings and to not take the douche bag cravings seriously. I heard he threw a knife at some point. I can't say for sure if that information is valid or not. She decided to break up with him two nights ago now. He was screaming at her in the car, calling her a moron and an idiot. I think she's definitely looking into another guy who will be more rational, and mellow. Her douche bag has bipolar but he's not on meds. He takes an herbal. He's also a functional alcoholic who got her into drinking. I think I can cut her cords of attachment and hooks. I have some skill in that although I'm still fairly ignorant about things. I don't know everything. I have no certifications as of this time.
Lastly, if you're okay with it, put up a psychic barrier around her and pull his hooks out of her. Protect her from his psychic influence for a while. It won't get him the help he needs, but it will help your friend.
I asked my Deities to protect my friend from him. She is not interested in cursing him but me and our mutual friend are pagan so we feel the need to bind the douche bag at least.
Oh yeah, Steve, these days, I have a strict computer curfew. It shuts off at 5 or 6. 5 is also TV time. If I feel too wound up, I don't watch TV. Fictional tension makes me manic sometimes. I'm totally in control of my health though. Everything is treated and I'm waiting to hear back from Safeway about potential jobs. I did fracture a bone in my knee and dislocated my knee cap in yoga. I'm keeping busy though without my gym as a distraction. My parents are supposedly leaving the country eventually. For now it feels like all talk. I look forward to being on my own. I have plans to turn a second bedroom into a ritual room where I can take my practice seriously. I have many interests in witchcraft as well as the mundane.